Woulda, Coulda…

Remember that thing you swore you were going to do but you never did? Do you think it’s too late or that it can wait until life slows down a little? Think about it for a moment. Maybe now is the right time to go for it.

Writing a book and learning to play the drums have always topped my list.

I love the drums. I don’t know why. I always wanted to learn how to play them. I mean really play, not just play air drums or with pencils on the table (been there, done that).

I was in my late twenties when I decided to take the plunge. I took my toddler and headed to the drum store near our house. I walked in—and I walked right back out.

There were two young guys behind the counter wearing the heavy metal attire of the day. I felt so old (ONLY TWENTY-SEVEN) with my toddler, wearing my mom jeans and driving a mini-van. I decided the opportunity had passed.

Nathan Followill-KOL Drummer Extraordinaire

My husband is familiar with the drums due to his days in a garage band and we would talk about getting a drum kit and taking lessons together. That’s as far as that went.

Four children and a few years later, I still love the drums. My husband and I go  to watch local bands occasionally. He puts up with my zillion comments throughout the evening: “Which one is the high-hat? Which is the crash?” “Look, he holds the drumsticks the other way,” and the most common one, usually whispered in awe: “How does he do that?”

But this is not a sad story. The ending is not “shoulda”, but “kinda”.

My kids got Rock Band for the Wii and I would watch them play. After much prodding, I sat down at the drums and played a Lennie Kravitz song. Wow. I was hooked.

Dave Grohl-"Everlong" Mastermind

The day I played my favorite song, “Everlong” (which is in the Impossible category) on medium difficulty and scored 99% was a milestone I will always remember (seriously). I told my kids the day I scored 100% we would have a huge party. They bugged me endlessly to try for 100% until they got so sick of “Everlong” they couldn’t stand to listen to it anymore.

I haven’t had time to play Rock Band lately but maybe when the kids get older they will give me a real drum kit for Mother’s Day.



2 comments on “Woulda, Coulda…

  1. I can relate to feelings of regret for not doing certain things when I was younger. One such thing, simple really…..I always wanted to cut my hair in some wild asymmetrical style and dye it a rich shiny platinum. As much as I wanted to be able to pull that off, I don’t think I really ever could have, so maybe it was all for the best. Now I have my bucket list…the things I still want to do, that I plan to do….someday. The places I’d like to visit, the art studio that I’d like to have and all of the art that I’d create, the hot-air balloon ride I’d like to take……I do hope “someday” will come without regrets. 🙂


  2. I think the hot-air balloon ride would make a great birthday gift!

    You could start throwing out hints for it now.


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